This workshops invites you to take a time to find words to express what triggers erotic feelings in you. Is it purely sensorial ? Or is there some imagination involved ? Do you need to feel the love, or just a type of silhouette is all you need ? Is it something that appears inside of you no matter what, or does it actually depends on the relationship, the level of intimacy ? Is it soft, or rough ? Are there things you fantasise about, but prefer not to realize ? Is there any shame about your kinks ? How comfortable are you talking to your lovers about the buttons that launch the sexual drive for you ? I invite you in a space of free speech to share what we almost never speak about.

We start with some grounding exercices, building the safe space together, agreeing on confidentiality. We share what feels like an erotic trigger for us, marvelling at the diversity, our differences, and our similarities. What arouses us mentally is often different from what we enjoy physically, and that's why it is important to take the time to explore and identify both playgrounds.

Then we will play some narrative games, and analyse a bit deeper what makes this way is not working for you, and that way it's so hot. Let's have fun while mindmapping our erotic triggers, and extract the essence of your very own erotic field, giving you some means to know yourself better, and communicate to your lover(s) how to trigger you erotically.

Interested ? Find the agenda and registration button at the end of this page !

Because it is such a struggle ! Me too, I've been awkward more than once. I've considered myself as a lost cause until my thirties. It really took me a while before becoming successful at flirting, and it started by redefining what the hell is this thing we call "flirt". Indeed, flirting does not mean getting any girl or boy you want in your bed. That would be manipulation, coercision, or worse, conformism ! Flirting means connecting in a playful and erotic way, to arouse and to knock gently on the door of sensuality, with respect. A good flirt technique is not meant to get you married or to turn your crush into a fuck slave. A good flirt technique means adding a sexy spice on your interactions.

Having made my own seductive bloom, from gloomy worm to slutty butterfly, I want to help others to achieve playful encounters. I will give some focus points which, from my perspective, seems to be universal. I will avoid generalisation about gender, because we all have female and male energies inside of us. Among these focus points is a major one : consent. This thing goes beyond saying yes or no, it's way more complex and deep. Consent is not a tool to reject, it's a tool to connect. Indeed, finding common ground is paramount for any relationship to start.

Also, we will adress expectations, and the context that motivates your flirty attitude. We will question the bagages that are underlying your desire to flirt. And from the very beginning, if you try a flirt, you make space for rejection, in such a way that you can express your desire while not being disruptive or problematic. Oh, surprise, making people feel safe is actually a great way to flirt ! You need to learn to ASK, to NEGOCIATE, and to INTERRUPT (KANIS method) in a way that gives space for yourself and the other. We will go through a row of exercise to muscle that consent tool, which is the first fertile and healthy layer on which all the rest can grow and bloom. 

Once that aspect is integrated, then some games can take place. How can someone get close to another, without crossing a boundary ? How to be clear, but not too blunt ? How can you tease, invite, and use innuendos to sparkle some lust in the air ? Let's have fun by roleplaying teasing and flirting !

Interested ? Find the agenda and registration button at the end of this page !