Because it is such a struggle ! Me too, I've been awkward more than once. I've considered myself as a lost cause until my thirties. It really took me a while before becoming successful at flirting, and it started by redefining what the hell is this thing we call "flirt". Indeed, flirting does not mean getting any girl or boy you want in your bed. That would be manipulation, coercision, or worse, conformism ! Flirting means connect in a playful and erotic way, to arouse and to knock gently on the door of sensuality. A good flirt technique is not meant to get you married or to turn your crush into a fuck slave. A good flirt technique means adding sexy spice on your interactions.

Having made my own seductive bloom, from gloomy worm to slutty butterfly, I want to help others to achieve playful encounters. I will give some focus points which, from my perspective, seems to be universal. Among these points is a major one : consent. This thing goes beyond saying yes or no, it's way more complex and deep. Consent is not a tool to reject, it's a tool to connect. Indeed, finding common ground is paramount for any relationship to start. You need to learn to ASK, to NEGOCIATE, and to INTERRUPT, in a way that gives space for yourself and the other. We will go through a row of exercise to muscle that tool.

We will adress expectations, and the context that motivates your flirty attitude. Yep, needyness is a mood killer, as well as preconception of what each of us are supposed to be. There is no generalisation like "women" enjoy this, "men" enjoy that. Forget your macho youtube seduction coach. Deconstructing roles and duties of each of us is a major step towards respect, empowerment, and stopping being oppressive assholes towards each over. Choose who you want to be, don't choose what the other should be.

Once that aspect is integrated, then some games can take place. How can someone get closer to another, without crossing a boundary ? How to be clear, but not too blunt ? Where is your comfort zone, and how is this something that empower you or puts you in a cage ?  How can you tease, invite, and use innuendos to sparkle some lust in the air ? Let's have fun by roleplaying with each other to train teasing and flirting !

Let's be kind to each other in this caring circle of vulnerable sharing and empowering exercises.

This workshop targets one of the most erogenous zone of your body: your brain ! Where does your imagination go when you unleash its perversity ? It can be very tame or very wild, sometimes even shameful or too much to even dare to put words on it. I invite you in a space of free speech to face what we almost never speak about.

We start with a narrative game to pinpoint erotic triggers. Together we create a story, then give feedback about what was turn ons and turn offs. What arouses us mentally is often different from what we enjoy physically, and that's why it is important to take the time to explore and identify both playgrounds.

I will propose a grid of analysis inspired by cinematographic dissecation, which I adapted to be able to analyse fantasies and find tropes, elements, fetishes, point of views, finding the specific layer of erotism that touches you, so you will have a real set of tools to pinpoint what exactly arouses you.

Our safe space will invite you to openly talk about the things you usually keep for yourself, without any pressure. Share what you feel comfortable sharing, and after some games to build up the trust, we can surprisingly share so many vulnerable things, and validate each other! Let's have fun while mindmapping our erotic mental triggers. Because once you know yourself better, you can express yourself better, and make your mind your ally in your sexuality.