This workshops invites you to take a time to find words to express what triggers erotic feelings in you. Is it purely sensorial ? Or is there some imagination involved ? Do you need to feel the love, or just a type of silhouette is all you need ? Is it something that appears inside of you no matter what, or does it actually depends on the relationship, the level of intimacy ? Is it soft, or rough ? Are there things you fantasise about, but prefer not to realize ? Is there any shame about your kinks ? How comfortable are you talking to your lovers about the buttons that launch the sexual drive for you ? I invite you in a space of free speech to share what we almost never speak about.

We start with some grounding exercices, building the safe space together, agreeing on confidentiality. We share what feels like an erotic trigger for us, marvelling at the diversity, our differences, and our similarities. What arouses us mentally is often different from what we enjoy physically, and that's why it is important to take the time to explore and identify both playgrounds.

I will propose a grid of analysis inspired by cinematographic dissecation, which I adapted to be able to analyse fantasies and find tropes, components, fetishes, point of views, finding the specific layer of erotism that touches you. At the end, you will have a set of tools to pinpoint what arouses you exactly. Let's have fun while mindmapping our erotic triggers, and extract the essence of your very own erotic field, allowing your mind to get there when your body also needs to, making your mind your ally in your sexuality, and not an obtsacle anymore.

Interested ? Find the agenda and registration button at the end of this page !

Because it is such a struggle ! Me too, I've been awkward more than once. I've considered myself as a lost cause until my thirties. It really took me a while before becoming successful at flirting, and it started by redefining what the hell is this thing we call "flirt". Indeed, flirting does not mean getting any girl or boy you want in your bed. That would be manipulation, coercision, or worse, conformism ! Flirting means connect in a playful and erotic way, to arouse and to knock gently on the door of sensuality. A good flirt technique is not meant to get you married or to turn your crush into a fuck slave. A good flirt technique means adding sexy spice on your interactions.

Having made my own seductive bloom, from gloomy worm to slutty butterfly, I want to help others to achieve playful encounters. I will give some focus points which, from my perspective, seems to be universal. Among these points is a major one : consent. This thing goes beyond saying yes or no, it's way more complex and deep. Consent is not a tool to reject, it's a tool to connect. Indeed, finding common ground is paramount for any relationship to start. And, oh, surprise, making people feel safe is actually a great way to flirt ! You need to learn to ASK, to NEGOCIATE, and to INTERRUPT, in a way that gives space for yourself and the other. We will go through a row of exercise to muscle that tool. 

We will adress expectations, and the context that motivates your flirty attitude. Yep, needyness is a mood killer, as well as preconception of what each of us are supposed to be. There is no generalisation like "women" enjoy this, "men" enjoy that. Forget your macho youtube seduction coach. Deconstructing roles and duties of each of us is a major step towards respect, empowerment, and stopping being oppressive assholes towards each over. Choose who you want to be, don't choose what the other should be.

Once that aspect is integrated, then some games can take place. How can someone get closer to another, without crossing a boundary ? How to be clear, but not too blunt ? How can you tease, invite, and use innuendos to sparkle some lust in the air ? Let's have fun by roleplaying teasing and flirting !

Interested ? Find the agenda and registration button at the end of this page !