THE NIGHTS OF LOVE AND FREEDOM


What is a NoLaF?

The Night of Love and Freedom is a Brussels based, invitation only private event. Since 2021, between 30 and 50 people connect every 6-10 weeks, to play and express their freedom in this experimental brave space. It is a party of its own style, at the crossing of queer techno rave, kink & fetish, progressive & romantic rock, sexpositive bxl scenes, and radical expression of self. 

Sweet or intense sexuality, casual chat, sensation play and a crazy dancefloor meet in a very open mindset. No slutshaming, and no pressure to behave flirty either, just the freedom to be who you enjoy being. People who have participated, describe these parties as being very precious, empowering and liberating. For most of them it is a transformative experience, opening new doors within themselves.


What to expect?

Expect a full night of sexiness in a safe and queer space, to discuss, touch, dance, have sex, explore fantasies and dare!   

At the NoLaF, several spaces will be available to you throughout the night. There is the boudoir, cosy and comfortable, welcoming all your sexual desires. Next to it you'll find the dancefloor, with a hell of a sound-system to rock your booty all night long on the sounds of a carefully curated 12h mixtape. In the kitchen you'll find all kinds of refreshments, some food and a risk reduction space. In the garden you can smoke, chill and cool down. Finally, upstairs, is the chill room, where you can rest the senses, use our massage table, or have some slow sex surrounded by meditative music.

You are welcome to bring your favourite toys, and of course your best poisons, some wine, beers, snacks, and anything that brings you joy and pleasure! Just keep in mind that the more intoxicated you are, the less connected you might be with the people around you, so keep a good balance and don't hesitate to bring some food and non-alcoholic drinks too.

No dresscode - wear whatever makes you feel sexy! Shiny makeup, elegant lingerie, disco slut, cuddle panda, whatever! If you have an elaborate wardrobe, you're welcome to bring some kinky clothes to share. Of course, you may change after you arrive, no need to take the metro with your gagball and miniskirt ;-)


Who can join?

Whether you're gay, lesbian, straight, trans, cis, queer - each event is a joyful mix of orientations and gender identities where we playfully explore different ways of connecting with each other. Give space to your inner self freed from normative social pressure, whatever form it may take. 

However, you are expected to respect certain ground rules:

  • CONSENT: always ask, even before a friendly touch. Consent must be freely given, informed, specific and revokeable.
  • EMPOWERMENT: encourage each other to experiment, and congratulate each time someone expresses a “no”.
  • CONFIDENTIALITY: you can talk about the party, but cannot give any names of people you met at the party (and of course photos are forbidden).

Each person who receives an invitation email may bring a friend. But choose wisely - you're responsible for the person that you bring along. If they mess up, for instance by disrespecting consent or by bothering others, they will be immediately kicked out and your reputation will be on the line too. Depending on the gravity of the situation, you might be taken off the invitation list. 


How to register?

Only people who receive the invitation email from [email protected] can register. To avoid the invitation ending up in your spam folder, add this address to your contact list.

STEP ONE: Reply to the invitation mail and mention whether or not you would like to bring a friend. Also mention if any of the following statements are true for you and your +1:  

  • you're an artist (video, photo, dance, music, theater, scenography, cabaret...)
  • you're a sexpositive activist, sex worker, intimacy professional, porn performer,...
  • you're LGBTQI+
  • you're a person of color
  • you haven't been able to participate in a NoLaF since a while
  • you never had the chance to set foot in this kind of event, feel intimidated but managed to gather the courage to join, because you feel ready to explore while respecting yourself and others
  • you don't tick any of these boxes but hope there is enough space this time

After replying to the invitation, you are automatically added to the waiting list.

STEP TWO: Participants will be selected based on the criteria mentioned above. This selection aims to create a balanced and diverse party with plenty of new faces. If you don't check any of the criteria but there is enough space, you will be able to participate. 

Two weeks after the invitation, you will receive one of the following emails:

  • A confirmation email. All the practical infos will be given at that time, about the entry fee, the address...
  • A waiting list email. If a spot is freed closer to the date, you might be invited to join. And if you can't come this time, your chances are higher to participate to the following NoLaF!


Stay SAFE

Last but not least: we strongly encourage you to get tested for STI before the party. In fact, during the presentation circle, everyone will share their STI status, when was the last time you got checked and what is your safer sex etiquette. And if you test positive to something, no big deal, you are still welcome! But be responsible, inform your playpartners, and use the risk reduction materials. There are many ways to protect or adapt the erotic games so everyone stays safe, and there's literally bags of condoms and latex gloves at your disposal, and a bathroom accessible all night. Oh, and please bring your own towel ;-)